I can tell a lot about a person from their tone of voice. Tone is everything. Even more significant than the words, although the words are also important. But when some people talk to me, I can actually feel the hatred behind their words through the tone of their voice. I know exactly what they're thinking about me, about life and more importantly, about God. Yes, you can tell how a person feels about God by the way they talk to you. Why?
Because a believer (a true believer, born again and Spirit-filled) represents God. You represent Jesus Christ. Just by breathing. Just by being on the planet. And a non-believer or someone who pretends to be a follower of Christ, can pick up on that right away, even if they don't consciously know it. They know it in their soul, in their subconscious mind. They feel it probably even through the devil himself or one of the devil's minions.
Most people (even Christians!) can hear from the devil or demons loud and clear and better than they can hear from God. It's sad but true. So, when a true, on-fire, Bible-believing, loving and kind Christian comes along, it really rubs us the wrong way --unless we're primed to receive positive other-worldly communications from the throne of God. Get it?
Let's face it. We're living in a fallen world. We have adjusted to surviving, compromising, accommodating life on this planet in the surroundings and narrative of SATAN. Right? Or not? Think about it, please before you jump to a conclusion.
In fact, jumping to conclusions is what most people do. Instead, we should take a step back and take a breath, pull ourself into the present and try to focus on THE TRUTH. Which is, of course, the WORD. The Word is our Anchor, our Guide, our Frame of Reference which brings us back to center. It centers us, balances us, straightens us out and corrects our flight pattern. It's something we should be referring to continually, especially when we're out and about worldly people. We don't want to become worldly.
That is a LOT easier said than done, I know. We have to be on the offensive continually. We have to be the ones who are reaching out to help others, give to others, inspire others and show the way. Right? Am I right? Because isn't it true that you are either the victim or the hero? The down-and-out or the uplifter? The problem or the solution? There are no neutrals. Like there are only two poles on a magnet. WE are the positive pole. And although it feels like that negative pole is winning, it's NOT.
In fact, my brother and sister, we have already won. The enemy cannot hurt us. Be not afraid of their faces. Be not afraid of the tone of their voice. It can only hurt them. See?
When they speak to you in a negative tone, an accusing tone, trying to make you MISERABLE like they are, trying to spread their misery and you just LET IT BOUNCE RIGHT OFF OF YOU, well, that negative misery has to go somewhere. So, where does it go? Exactly. It goes RIGHT BACK TO WHERE IT CAME FROM. Now, I know that's very sad and we do feel a little sorry for that miserable victim of circumstances that were "not of their making", don't we? But, we're NOT going to let their misery affect us, not for one nanosecond. Because that would just be counter-productive.
It's just not our job to feel sorry for people who want to subsist in their misery and want to pull others down with them. It is simply not our calling or ministry to even allow them to connect or communicate with us. Once they have identified themselves, we put up a red flag. We put yellow crime tape around them in our minds because we need to remind ourselves that that person is a crime scene and no good will come from communicating with them. They'll cost you money. They'll waste your time. They'll steal your joy if you allow them to. They may promise you the moon but all you'll get out of their dark, bottomless pit is . . . THAT'S RIGHT! You've got it!
MISERY.
Misery is their first name and Misery is their last name and their middle name is MORE. There's no end to their misery. And the crazy thing is that they are deceived into thinking that they can get happy by SHARING their misery. So, that's their mission: SHARE MISERY.
When they come across someone who is happy, they can't BEAR it. It's like a mole who climbs out of a deep, dark hole and finds himself in the brilliant light of day. It hurts. It's disgusting. Revolting to him.
Do you know what they do? They start to lecture the believer about how wrong they are, how dogmatic, how stupid and uneducated they are. Have you ever experienced that? Sure you have. If you are a born-again believer in the Cross of Christ, you have experienced that many times in your life. And let me tell you (if nobody else has already told you) you CANNOT change them. You cannot convince them that there's a better way. They know it all. They are "older and wiser" than you. Or so they think.
There's no sense in wasting your time trying to convert the one who's mind is made up. "My mind is made up so don't confuse me with the facts." Shed your light and move on. If they are not curious to know about the Higher Power, the joy of knowing Jesus, the Light of the World, let them go off on another cycle of self-deprecation and misery.
You can throw them a lifeline. That's all you can do. You can't change their mind. You can't convince them with arguments. Maybe give them a verse out of the Word to chew on. Who knows? It cold stick in their mind and eventually they could allow it to shed some light on their path. All I know is that, with dyed-in-the-wool narcissists, that deep, dark hole they insist on staying in gets deeper and deeper every day because they seem to be digging their way to hell. And, yes, it's very, very sad, especially when that person in that hole is a close relative or friend. Very sad indeed.
What can we do? Pray. That's not a small thing to do. That is THEE most powerful thing you can do. PRAY. Pray in love and faith and you can turn the hand of God. Ask God to show up in their life in a powerful way. God can show up in a prison cell, in a mosque, in a hospital room. He's more willing to show up than we are willing to ask Him to show up. And remember:
IT IS NOT GOD'S WILL FOR ANY HUMAN BEING TO GO TO HELL. Hell is reserved. It's on reservation. Human beings are not supposed to push their way in. It's not like a popular bistro where they serve your favorite food. Hell is somewhere nobody wants to go. They may think they do, but when they get there, yikes! "Boy! Did I ever make a wrong turn at the intersection! GET ME OUTTA HERE!"
Jesus warned us against it. Do I need to quote you chapter and verse? Okay. Here goes.
Matthew 24:13 But woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye shut up the Kingdom of Heaven against men: for ye neither go in yourselves, neither suffer ye them that are entering to go in. 15 Woe unto you, scribes and Parisees, hypocrites! for ye compass sea and land to make one proselyte, and when he is made, ye make him twofold more the child of hell than yourselves.
Matthew 13:40 - 43 As therefore the tares are gathered and burned in the fire: so shall it be in the end of this world. The Son of man shall send forth his angels, and they shall gather out of his kingdom all things that offend, and them which do iniquity; And shall cast them into a furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth. Then shall the righteous shine forth as the sun in the kingdom of their Father. Who hath ears to hear, let him hear."
49-50 So shall it be at the end of the world: the angels shall come forth, and sever the wicked from among the just, And shall cast them into the furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth."
Luke 12:5 But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear Him, which after He hath killed hath power to cast into Hell: yea, I say unto you, Fear him.
Jesus described an afterlife of weeping and gnashing of teeth which didn't sound like He was describing Heaven.
Luke 13:25 - 30
When once the master of the house is risen up, and hath shut to the door, and ye begin to stand without, and to knock at the door, saying, Lord, Lord, open unto us; and He shall answer and say unto you, I know you not whence ye are: Then shall ye begin to say, We have eaten and drunk in Thy presence, and thou has taught in our streets, But He shall say, I tell you, I know you not whence ye are; depart from Me, all ye workers of iniquity. There shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth, when ye shall see Abraham, and Isaac, and Jacob, and all the prophets, in the Kingdom of God and you yourselves thrust out. And they shall come from the east, and from the west, and from the north, and from the south, and shall sit down in the Kingdom of God. And behold, there are last which shall be first, and there are first which shall be last.
I used to believe that there was no hell or if there was a hell that only the very worst followers of Satan would ever be cast into hell. However, in time I came to realize that whether or not I believed in something didn't change the facts. There is a Hell. There must be. Otherwise Christ died for nothing.